Today I am about to moot a topic, that has been on my mind for a long time now.
Why is it easier to express hate or dislike?
How many times do we actually think before we pass a judgement? Let us chew over this for a little while.
One possible reason can be the urban-race. It is the race of doing more things in least time. Modern day man does not have time to ponder over things, wasting time deciding worth of the effort. Do the fastest thing and get over with it is more like it.
Three steps to sorting.
See. Assess. Reject.
"Reject".
It could also have been other way round. See. Assess. ‘Accept’. But I guess no one has the time to take the risk of the time that will be wasted in liking something. Specially if is actually IS a waste.
Another reason can be the need to belong in a category or a class. This sometimes leads to projection of false standards. Because a thing is generally looked down upon by a certain cosset, you cannot take risk of falling OUT of the clique you have chosen for yourself. Expressing to like something, which not necessarily maintains a good reputation in your 'group', can sometimes do exactly that. Let me illustrate an example:
Imagine yourself vaunting your likes for "Himesh Reshammiya branded music concert" to your posh friends talking about the latest Aerosmith concert. You done even like Aerosmith !! and you love Himesh’s music!
Why? Is this another side effect of the 'urban-race'?
A third reason can be emotional immunity. General belief of emotions are only the 'tender' kinds of emotions. Eg: Love, friendship, liking, nostalgia etc. Few open minded scholars will put anger, dislike and similar emotions first on the list. Now, the point I’m trying to establish is that, in today's age, Public Display of Emotion is allowed only on cricket field. If you do that, it is contretemps and basically the hottest gossip-topic of the day. Any emotion. Especially extreme ones like hate OR love. I also once read somewhere, that every negative word vibrates in your brain about ten thousand times more than a positive word.
Maybe that explains why we believe only the worst reviews. It might also explain why it is so easy to forget good things about a person/place, while the bad thing, (even if only one!) just refuses to leave comforts of memory.
So when you get to know someone who actually hates something you hate too, that is the root of new-age camaraderie. :)
2 comments:
Don't you thing such a camaraderie is unhealthy?
I mean, I'm subconciously a victim of it. And what you said was a revelation. Somehow getting sick of it now.
A common hatred for the canteen food, for the electromagnetics professor, for the roads, for the traffic... Is this a healthy basis for any relationship? or is this relationship healthy? And that somehow puts a question mark on some relationships I maintain with some people...
We should learn to see the pure white cloth rather than the ink blot on it.. Doing this we'll be surprised that the world is not such a bad place after all..
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